Not long after she asked, we attended our local high school's holiday production. The set was amazing, the costuming was fantastic and the acting was superb. I sat in the audience with some friends whose children were on stage, and I thought, 'A and P will not get this opportunity if they are homeschooled..." then P climbed on to my lap because she couldn't see and I found myself leaning over and whispering things in A's ear to make sure that she understood the plotline.
Cuddles and snuggles and silly faces. |
Even if we had found the time to attend the high school production (there were only 2 kids my girls ages in the audience and that was because they had siblings in the production), my girls would not have cuddled with me. We were all at each other's throats. They were harried and stressed from school. I was
When the girls were little, we always found time for Christmas productions. We spent time visiting and going caroling and making gifts and baking. The last few years, I baked alone. We were hard-pressed to find time to see one holiday production or do any visiting. Forget making gifts and I did all of the baking myself. The girls would whine when they got home from school about homework and how they wanted to bake, but, I would point out, "Your job is school and this is what your teacher wants you to do, so this is your first priority, if there is time when you are done, we will bake," but by the time they were done it was time to start dinner and after dinner we were all exhausted and fell into bed so that we could do it all again the next day.
Last year, the week leading up to Christmas Eve, A had 6 mid-year assessments, a Social Studies test, a Science test, a Reading test, a Spelling test and a Math test. Plus, homework every night. She was in fourth grade.
Making holiday gifts. |
A has read the entire Samantha and Julie series in American Girl and all of the American Girl holiday books, along with several Judy Blume books and Rip Van Winkle. She is almost done with a new book, TouchBlue by Cynthia Lord. P read all of the American Girl Christmas books and several of the Addie books, and is now 2/3 of the way through Mackenzie Blue Secret Crush.
Sisters enjoying each other. |
A spends her days creating gifts, playing with friends, helping bake and writing stories. P has been practicing her recorder (the girls were unable to bring their instruments home from school because they may not bring them back, which I can understand, but then they were also unable to practice). P has been making little houses for her Littlest Pet Shop pets out of all kinds of boxes and things; she has also been writing stories and designing fashions and playing games on facebook.
In short, last year there was little time to enjoy the holiday season, we were stressed and pressured, harried and miserable. This year we are relaxed, we spend our days creating gifts and baking and our evenings reading together, visiting friends and family or attending holiday productions.
As I watched our high school production, I thought of the trade-offs. Maybe my girls wouldn't get to perform in the high school play, but they would have a relaxed childhood, they would enjoy the holiday season and they would feel the warmth of their mother's arms around them. Maybe they won't have the friends in the halls, catcalling to them on-stage (unless they choose to return to high school or vocational school for high school) but they will have a sense of self-worth that is not defined by others, but by themselves, which I think is healthier. Suddenly, as I watched the play, I realized that the very woman, Karen at Homeschool Girls, who asked me how this December was different from last December, is the mother of a homeschool girl who is in many, many plays and productions. So those opportunities do exist for homeschool kids, we just need to find them, if and when the girls are interested.
If you are new to homeschooling, how is this holiday season different for you? If you are a veteran, seasoned homeschooler what does your family do to enjoy the holiday season?